Falling in Love Again: She's not the woman I loved 2 weeks ago

Falling in Love Again: She’s not the woman I loved 2 weeks ago

Two weeks ago, my wife went through what I can only describe as a spiritual birthing. It was intense, disruptive, beautiful—raw in a way that only Jesus can orchestrate. Since then, she’s spent 12 days on a mission trip in Mexico City. And not the sightseeing, selfie-taking kind of mission trip—this one was packed with encounters.

She saw people delivered. She watched physical healings happen right in front of her. She was visited in personal and physical ways by Jesus Himself. She had her heart softened for the Mexican people and was blown away by the love they poured into her. She experienced a hunger for her prayer, a deeper hunger for the presence of Jesus, and the kind of heart-level vulnerability that forms bonds in days that normally take years. She was uncomfortable, grateful, scared, loved, and deeply changed.

Tonight at 6 PM, I get to see her again. And I already know—I’m not getting the same wife back.

She’ll still be her. But more her. Or maybe, I guess it's really, more of who Jesus has always seen in her. The things that held her back? Shaken. The parts of her that were dormant? Awake.

And here I am, the one who stayed home - celebrating some fof Maverick's amazing poops in the toilet.

And I find myself with a question I think every spouse faces if they’re doing marriage with someone who keeps growing:

How do I show up—not as the main character in my own story—but as a safe place in theirs?

What if real love means being ready to fall in love again—over and over—as your spouse is transformed?

I reflected on this with Jesus this morning - and this is what I’ve got…

Protect the Fire, Don’t Try to Contain It

Bottom line - I was playing batman & dinosaurs while Whit has had a mountaintop moment  - and the truth is that there’s a subtle pull to fold it neatly into our shared life. But glory doesn’t come home tame. It comes home messy, unprocessed, still pulsing with presence. I don’t have to fully understand it—but I do get to protect it.

Instead of trying to manage the intensity, open space for it. Let her talk. Let her cry. Let her repeat the same story three times from different angles because her spirit is still catching up to her body.

Let your presence say, “There’s room for all of this here.”

Let your curiosity say, “You are worth discovering all over again.”

Whit has grown in ways I haven’t. That’s okay. Growth doesn’t come with matching itineraries. What matters is my posture.

Choose curiosity. Not to “catch up” or “stay relevant”—but because this person you love just uncovered a new layer of who they are.

Don’t search for the “right” questions to ask. Instead, tune your attention to what’s genuinely stirring your wonder. What surprises you about what they’re saying? What feels different in the way they carry themselves? What’s the tone beneath the words?

Act from awe, not obligation.

End your Love Affair with ‘Familiar’

There may be moments where I miss the version of Whit who was easier to predict—or easier to please. I’m okay with feeling that. But I have no interest in letting nostalgia turn into resistance.

This new version of your spouse might challenge you, stretch you, even confuse you. But it also holds new beauty, new strength, and new intimacy if you’re willing to explore it.

Don’t rush to re-establish normal. Let the old wineskin stretch—or give way entirely.

See What’s Being Revealed—and Call It Good

Instead of trying to say the “right” encouraging words, practice seeing with Spirit-led eyes.

Look for softness where there was once self-protection. Look for boldness where there was once fear. Look for weight in their words, peace in their silence, fire in their eyes.

I’m not interested in manufacturing praise—I want to position my heart to notice transformation and bless it out loud.

When you speak into the glory you see, you become a mirror Jesus uses to confirm the transformation.

Let your wholeness be a gift to her

If something rises up in you—sadness, jealousy, insecurity, loneliness—that’s not wrong. That’s human. But this part is important: your spouse isn’t responsible for fixing that ache - especially not right now.

Jesus is.

Let Him hold the ache before you try to put words to it with her. You don’t have to hide it, but you also don’t want to make her carry it. She’s still tender. Let your wholeness be a gift to her, not a need from her.

When you let Him tend to your heart, you show up for your spouse without needing them to shrink to make you comfortable.

Pray Like It’s a New Beginning

This is a fresh start. A new page in your story. Not a continuation of “business as usual,” but a moment worth marking.

I will ask the Spirit to highlight what He’s building in her, and bless it. Even a short, simple prayer like, “Jesus, thank You for this fire. Thank You for how You love her. Keep pouring it on, and let me be a safe place for it to grow.”

This is your way of saying, “I’m not just okay with your transformation—I’m hosting it.”

The Kind of Marriage That Can Hold Glory

It’s a myth that the goal of marriage is to love one person the rest of your life - the goal is to fall in love with all the new people she becomes along the way

Your spouse will change. If they’re walking with Jesus, they should.

And you will too.

My goal is to offer safety, honor, and curiosity that allow transformation to keep unfolding.

I don’t want to be the man who keeps my wife tethered to who she was. I want to be the man who celebrates every new layer that Jesus reveals in her.

So tonight, I get to meet her again—for the first time.

And I can’t wait.